i just heard this:
“..there’s a defense mechanism. it’s called “reaction formation” where basically you hate what you love and you love what you hate.”

and then i read this:
“..when you meet someone and you immediately dislike them, always remember you are seeing a reflection of yourself—there is something you don’t like about yourself that you’re not owning up to. When you see it in someone else, then you don’t like that person, but in reality you are being displeased with yourself.”

fascinating shit, psychology.